Sometimes I think that I must be super woman. Am I just different than many women? I talked to a good friend of mine the other day. She has a four-month old baby and seems to be having a hard time adjusting. She expects her husband to do more than he is evidently doing. I don't really expect much from my husband. I do the following... clean the house, wash clothes (he helps if I'm really, really busy), feed the child and bath him, get him ready for school in the morning. Now, my husband usually cooks and cleans up after cooking. I do help. He also takes out the trash, cuts the grass, and usually empties the dishwasher. I realize that I do much more than he does, but I don't mind. I like things done a certain way so I'd rather do them. I don't mind feeding and bathing the baby because I work all day and this is time I get to spend with him.
I also work 40+ hours a week. Is this not normal?
I do have lots of energy. I don't really watch television at night. I'll read while taking a bath at night, but try to stay busy.
I don't find having a child has really changed my life. I still do many of the things I did before him. I still volunteer although the organization has changed. I still work about the same as before. Maybe a little less. I don't exercise as much but I want to spend time with my child so I gave up going to organized exercise classes.
Maybe I'm just not normal?
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If Alan would cook, I would gladly do more of the cleaning. (I mean, of course, if Alan would good yummy stuff like Burnell. ;)) But if a husband did nothing, I wouldn't have married him in the first place! LOL.
I think it's just really hard for some people. I remember being stressed all the time when Ander was really little, and now I wonder how I managed to get so stressed.
But I think you are closer to the "new" normal, where mom still does more than dad, but dad pitches in.
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